ORGASMIC TRUTH NO ONE TELLS YOU......
By Dr. Linda Muthu
Urologist, Pelvic Surgeon & Your Guide to Sexual Wholeness
Dr. Linda,
I’ve been married for 12 years, and I still don’t know if I’ve ever had an orgasm. Am I broken?”
This heartbreaking question, shared by a patient I’ll call Sarah, isn’t rare. Across my practice, women whisper similar confessions—often soaked in shame and confusion. Society sells us the image of orgasms as spontaneous, effortless fireworks. For many, they feel more like a distant myth.
Here at Boost Manhood Naturally, we’re tearing down the stigma, replacing jargon with raw honesty, and exploring how pleasure is your birthright—not a performance.
What Is an Orgasm? – Unpacking the Mystery
Close your eyes. Think back to your first taste of chocolate—that melt-on-your-tongue euphoria? An orgasm is your body’s version of that: a full-body, involuntary yes.
It’s not just a “climax.” It’s your nervous system lighting up, muscles pulsing like ocean waves, and your brain bathing in blissful neurochemicals. For men, it’s often tied to ejaculation. For women, it’s more nuanced—a spectrum of sensations. Some experience sharp, intense bursts; others feel a slow, deep warmth.
Key Takeaway: Your orgasm is as personal as your fingerprint. Comparison is the thief of joy.
The Silent Struggle: Why Women Often Stay Quiet
“My husband thinks I’m faking. I don’t even know how to explain what’s missing.”
Many women silently endure the disconnect. Why?
Because of myths like:
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Myth 1: Orgasm = Good Sex
Truth: Intimacy is not a checklist. Connection matters more than performance. -
Myth 2: “If you loved me, you'd know what I need.”
Truth: Even soulmates aren’t mind readers. Communication is courageous—not criticism.
A Patient’s Journey:
Emma, 34, wept in my office: “I’ve faked every orgasm for five years. I’m terrified he’ll leave.”
Together, we rebuilt trust—first with her body, then with her partner.
Your Body, Your Rules: No Two Orgasms Are Alike
Forget porn. Forget your friend’s stories. Your pleasure belongs to you.
There’s no one-size-fits-all:
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Sprinters: Quick, intense climaxes—usually via clitoral stimulation.
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Marathoners: Slow, deep orgasms from G-spot stimulation or emotional intimacy.
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Hybrids: A blend of both (yes, it’s possible—and amazing).
Try This: Light a candle. Lock the door. Explore your body like a curious scientist—not for climax, just for connection.
“But How Do I Know?” — Recognizing Your Orgasm
You’re not failing if your orgasm doesn’t look like it does in the movies.
Physical Signs:
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A sudden warmth spreading from your pelvis to your toes
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Involuntary toe curling
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Quickened breath, followed by a moan or gasp you didn’t plan
Emotional Signs:
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A floaty, giggly high afterward
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A deep sense of closeness to yourself—or your partner
If you’re asking “Was that it?”—it probably wasn’t. True release is unmistakable.
When Pleasure Feels Out of Reach: It’s Not “All in Your Head”
“I’ve tried everything—positions, toys, podcasts. Why am I still numb?”
This could be anorgasmia—a medical term for persistent difficulty or inability to reach orgasm.
Causes May Include:
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Physical: Diabetes, pelvic surgeries, hormonal shifts (menopause can be a silent thief)
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Emotional: Trauma, anxiety, internalized shame, or feeling “unworthy” of pleasure
You're not alone: 1 in 10 women struggle with this. The first step? Letting go of shame.
Why Orgasms Play Hide-and-Seek
It’s rarely just about technique.
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The Pressure Trap: “Will I come tonight?” Performance anxiety is the enemy of pleasure.
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The Grief Factor: Postpartum changes, menopause, or chronic illness can disrupt sexual identity.
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The “Good Girl” Curse: Many were conditioned to prioritize others' pleasure and suppress their own.
Breakthrough Moment:
One woman told me, “I realized I’d never truly touched myself—just rushed through it.”
When she slowed down, everything changed.
Small Shifts, Big Joy: Habits That Reconnect You
Morning Ritual: Spend 60 seconds massaging your vulva with coconut oil—not for arousal, just for self-connection.
Tech Detox: Scroll less, imagine more. Fantasy feeds desire.
Three Breaths” Rule: During intimacy, pause. Take three deep breaths. Ask: “What do I need right now?”
Pro Tip: Lubricant is not “cheating.” Vaginal dryness—especially after 40—is incredibly common and treatable.
Therapy Isn’t a Dirty Word: Why Support Sets You Free
Therapy isn’t for broken people. It’s for brave ones.
What Can Help:
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Sensate Focus: A guided process to rediscover touch, free from expectations
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Pelvic Floor Therapy: Strengthening internal muscles to improve sensitivity and control
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Couples Work: Healing harmful patterns together, as a team
Truth Bomb: You deserve pleasure just as much as your partner. Full stop.
Your Questions, Answered—No Shame, Just Truth
“I’ve never had an orgasm. Is it too late?”
Never. Your body can experience joy at any age. Begin with self-exploration.
“Do antidepressants affect orgasm?”
Yes, they can. But options exist—like adjusting your dose, adding Wellbutrin, or trying CBD.
“Why can I climax alone but not with my partner?”
Solo, you’re relaxed. With a partner, mental distractions interfere. Try mutual masturbation—it’s intimate, not awkward.
“Did childbirth ruin my orgasms?”
Absolutely not. With pelvic therapy, your body can bounce back beautifully.
“I’m post-menopausal and feel numb. Is there hope?”
Yes. Estrogen creams, vibrators, and patience can reignite sensation.
“Can survivors of trauma enjoy sex?”
Yes. Trauma-informed therapy helps reclaim pleasure safely.
“Do Kegels really work?”
Yes—but only when done correctly. Overdoing it can cause tightness, not relief.
“Why does sex hurt now?”
Vaginal atrophy is common and treatable. Don’t suffer in silence.
“Is it normal to cry after orgasm?”
Totally. Big releases can unlock buried emotions. Let it happen.
“How do I start this conversation with my partner?”
Try: “I want us to grow even closer. Can we explore this together?”
As Dr. Linda Mathu, a U.S.-based physician and someone who truly understands the heartbreak of helpless moments, I want to speak to you not just as a doctor — but as a mother, a daughter, and a woman who deeply cares about families.
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Dear You,
You are not a problem to be fixed. Your worth is not defined by orgasms. But oh, sweet friend—you deserve to feel alive in your skin. To laugh, to tremble, to collapse into the sheets whispering, “So this is what they meant.”
Healing won’t be linear. Some days will be hard. Others will bring breakthroughs that take your breath away.
Through it all, remember:
Your pleasure is real.
Your voice deserves to be heard.
You are never, ever alone.
With love and deep belief in your joy,
Dr. Linda
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